Are you complaining, or just 'being real'?

Question: "If someone is unhappy about something, talks about it, is it complaining or stating how you are feeling?"

[This was asked in relation to the quote: ''A thankful person is thankful under all circumstances. A complaining soul complains even in paradise.']

Answer:

Complaining can be defined as a continual inner resistance to 'what is' showing up in your life. Often, the resistance is accompanied by continual negative thoughts about a particular person and/or situation, and a repetitive voicing of that negativity to anyone who will listen.

Many people, most often through a lack of awareness, find much to complain about.. from the weather, to their job, their partner, their family, their lack of money, their lack of health...and, underpinning all of this, usually lies a deep unhappiness and resentment towards some, many or all of the circumstances and conditions of their life.

Let's be honest here... complaining (talking incessantly about what we don't want/like in our lives) doesn't change anything. In fact, it magnifies it!

So, we are invited not to magnify our state of unhappiness by dwelling on unhappy circumstances, continually thinking and talking about them.

Thought produces experience, which produces thought, which produces experience...

The above question shows much wisdom in that if we find we are unhappy about something/someone, we must surely admit that to ourselves to be able to change our state of being.

Recognition of one's internal state is vital to changing it. Denial, or pretending to be happy, does not serve us - and, in fact, this type of 'positive thinking' is not positive at all!

Pretending to be happy does more harm than good, and is a result of misunderstanding the law of vibration.

Yet, if we continually say we are unhappy, to ourselves and others, and we do not seek to change that energy, we can fall into the trap of complaining, which will perpetuate the state of unhappiness. It is Law.

We must seek to change our circumstances by becoming the witness of the Self. This inner awareness breaks the cycle, and allows us to think a new thought, feel a new emotion, and take action from a resultant shift in perspective.

When we find ourselves in a state of resistance, we must immediately ask, 'what do I really want here?' and move from that new awareness. We must learn to use the contrasting experiences of our lives to go upwards in consciousness, rather than going around in a vicious circle.

When we resist anything, we unwittingly root it in place - and the law of attraction/vibration has no judgment. It gives us more of the same!

Jaime Tanna
Founder and Director
www.energytherapy.biz

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